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Wednesday, 21 July 2010

Liking My Business Page vs. Being My Facebook Friend

I have noticed that a lot of eBay and online sellers who I don't know have been wanting to add me as a friend on Facebook. I used to say no... Facebook was only for people I knew who were my friends. I talk about personal things there and very little about work or eBay. So Facebook is a place to stay connected to people I know and like personally.

Then I figured well why not grow the fan base. I started saying yes to people. Now I probably have 250 "friends" I don't even know... who if Facebook didn't have "hide" would fill my wall with Farmville requests, pictures of grandkids, and items they're pushing everybody to buy. I've hidden them. They've probably hidden me. Most of them never write on my wall or comment on anything I post.

One of them recently opened a private message with me saying who she was and that she wanted to add me as a friend. I didn't know her, and suggested that she "like" my business page if she's interested in what I have to say about eBay and online selling. When I suggest this to people, they tend to not do it.

My guess is that we want to rack up "friends" because then we think someone is listening. Many of us posting a lot to Facebook have somewhat solitary lives. Lots of time in front of a computer, usually alone. Facebook helps us feel connected to people, even if they are random people. And Facebook pushes us to make new friends, which to me goes against their whole original idea.

So I am going back to only accepting friends I know. I will prune my friends list to remove people I don't know who I've probably hidden and who don't seem interested in what I have to say. And I suggest the same for everybody. Remove people you don't really know. You are exposing a lot of information about yourself and your friends to what are essentially strangers. And why? Ask yourself why you added that stranger as a friend.

If you are interested in what I have to say about eBay and online selling, please "like" the page at http://www.facebook.com/AsWasInc. I'd love to see you there, and interact with you. I'm happy to take questions. But considering my personal Facebook is really about my personal life, and I'm not in a contest to have a certain number of friends, I'm going to prune for people I know and have some sort of connection to... business, personal, or other.

Thanks for understanding. Now go do it too! :)

PS: If you like music biz and concert industry news, I have another Facebook page you can like at http://www.facebook.com/WeAreYourPeople

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I am having this exact same problem. I have a handful of online friends that I consider "real" friends and friended them. Now all the mutual online friends want to friend me as well. I only use my Facebook profile to chat with out of state family and friends. I have a Page for everyone else.

But unfortunately there doesn't seem to be a way to not friend people without offending them. Most people I know just created a whole second profile for non-friends but I really don't want to go there.

Ugh, two profiles. Yeah, I've thought about that too, but I don't think it makes sense.

What I have noticed is that eBay sellers who have met me or heard me speak add me and then interact (like posting comments to things I post). eBay sellers who don't know me but saw me as a friend of friend don't comment on my stuff, probably hide me, and seem to mostly be playing Farmville.

So even if I think I'm going to establish this business identity, I still don't see it really working out. It would be annoying to maintain, and they would probably still try to friend the personal account.

Deb, I agree with you. When casual acquaintances attempt to “friend” me, I respond and tell them that my Facebook page is just for close friends and family. If they want to link up, they should use LinkedIn (for professional contacts) and/or follow me on Twitter (for casual friends).

Same problem, I probably don't have a clue as to who two-thirds of my 300 friends are other than the fact that they're online sellers.

I'm going to have to weed things out some eventually, but I keep saying that.

The down side is I barely post anything to my personal page anymore but keep the fan page active.

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